1+1=1+1

When you're married, if one of you wants sex, both of you have sex...as long as the one who wants it isn't the man.

Wait Here I'll Be Back

Is there any relationship at all when one of you isn't certain about even wanting to be in it.

The uncertainty, the wait, that's what will kill you.

On the Road Again

On the road to where you always want to be it's easy to find yourself on the road to where you never want to be, or thought you'd be.

Apocalyptso

It's not the end of the world, but you can see it from here...

Totally Fucked Up

You love me if...

I love you if...

You Do You

I used to be myself and that didn't really work out so well. Now I don't what or how to be, but I'm working on it.

To be honest, I'm a bit scared of what might happen once I find that guy.

I really don't want to do me anymore.

The Freedom of Failure

Q) How do you make someone like you?

A) You can't. Stop trying.

Red Hot Poker

Is it more painful to be lonely with others, or alone?

Hopeful Expectation

I'm so fucking stupid.

I walked into it again, and opened the door for more.

I will be revived or crushed, maybe both.

Speak My Language

I'm yours, 100%. 

I'm all in.

I need to be. 

All in or all out, but I need one.

I can't go day by day. 

I can understand why you need to, but I need to know what's coming, as a baseline for living my life. 

So I'm telling you, I'm yours.

I will try make sure that I no longer see my vision of happiness as somehow the obligation of others to fulfill. 

That becomes about me, not us. 

I will try my best not to let that become a source of discouragement to me in our relationship. Certainly not to point of frustration I've felt in the past. 

I can't be angry anymore.

I can't fight anymore.

Honestly I'm not sure what it is I can be or do  anymore.

There's nothing you don't know about me, in as much as I know about myself. But now I'm fully exposed, mentally naked before you. 

All day every day.

That is trust.

But you feel to me like you're holding back emotionally, physically. It is a wedge between us.

My fear is beggining to overcome my trust, again, which makes the divide between us feel unpassable from my end. 

I have nothing more to contribute. 

I have always given everything I had toward making you happy, but I realize I can truly never make anyone happy by trying to earn their approval. 

That's not love. 

I can't continue to extend my hand to feel like it's being slapped back. Or the trust involved with reminding you that I'm still here, and waiting for you. 

For us.

I want you. 

Fully. 

I know I can't ask that in fairness, and so I have waited. 

Wondering if it demeans the gift and tires the listener the requests for what should be a gift given without prompting more than occasionally, and not something to use as a measuring device for some sort of validation and an extension of my own insecurities. 

That's conditional love, so it's not love at all at that point.

I love you and I'm certainly not my best around you. I don't know that I ever have been. I'd like to know what that feels like but that feels a very long way away.

For some reason I have always felt a need to be a part of someone else. Someone I could count on. I never found my fit until I met you. 

I'm all in.

That said, I really need some understanding of what you see as being your part in where we're at if I'm ever to put that to rest. 

I need to hear apologies if you feel they are warranted. I need to know you care because you want to be a part of me, and I need you to know that I'm doing my best to be my part for you...but I'm drowning.

You're keeping me off the life raft.

I need to feel your touch, because that's what you desire not what I have worn you down into doing as a concession and under duress / obligation. I don't want that anymore.

It's depressing and demeaning.

I want you as much as I need you, and I know you've told me your need for me is the factor in staying at times when you'd rather have left. I don't want that either.

Don't let money be the deciding factor that you're with me.

Our window to pursue a happiness in a way that's  rapidly fading away is closing. So if I can't be your guy, you should find someone that is. I need to know, know, that I'm your guy.

I'm glad to be needed, but I need to feel wanted.

I've been an ass, but I don't think I'm that guy anymore. I feel like some asshole came in fucked 30years of my life and left me with products of my own destruction to clean up.

I will wait until there is no more need to wait.

I will wait until waiting is no longer required.

Sometimes we get to the front of the line, sometimes we notice other rides.

So there is a chance

I can't be with you if you won't be with me.

If I am not wanted, but only needed, what is that?

Spare Change

You can't change the people around you, but you can change the people around you.

True change comes from within.

Big change comes from without.

Cue an A

Don't like the answer? 

Change the question.

-namasdave

You do you

You do you

I guess that works if you're good with who you are,but I don't, and I've never been me slight moments of lapse that I later regret, that's what I have in my own mind.

The Sounds of Silence

People comunicate with the language they are comfortable with, unfortunately many people try to speak through silence, a language I have yet to master.

-nasdave

Heavy is the Head, Heavy is the Heart

Becareful not to rest your hopes on something that can't bear the load of that weight.

life lessens

It's awfully difficult to move into the future while clinging to the past...funny thing is the future comes and goes regardless, and whatever we do is ours alone to account for.

The Trouble with People

I would gladly release all expectations if you could face who you really are, who you have been, and show me that person in the raw emotional state.

If you can't be vulnerable with me, you don't... not really. Not like you say.

What is Love Anyway?

You'll never earn what must be given.

8 1/2 Lives

When you know how to pet the cat, you know how it will respond. 

Clearly, I need to pet more cats.

Stings Like A Bee

How long, after you're sure you've lost, do you continue the fight?

You could pretend to conceed but can you conceed what was never yours to make concession on?

You could continue fighting until your strength is gone, and then fight some more, and hope for a technical win.

Or...

You could quit and fight again another day, someone else probably...

The Weight

If you're waiting for things to happen organically, you should probably be prepared to wait a long time...