You can't always get what you want...

Help is a blessing to both giver and receiver.

It feels good to help others, and when you feel good about helping someone, you probably should.

Over the course of my years I have learned a few things about this process and hope that in sharing them with you I might spare you the time and experiences involved in arriving at my own conclusions...Hope this helps.  ;)
If we are to be effective givers of help we should consider not only what we are able and willing to offer but also consider what our own needs might be were we in the same situation as the intended recipient of our blessings.

Even the most well intentioned effort toward help can be no help at all or worse, if it is a thoughtless and misdirected effort.

It's also good as givers, to realize that the person accepting our help may, without our realization, be returning that grace and mercy on the same level or greater as we who feel we are extending it.
Like the other day when my eight year old, in all seriousness, "taught me how to use the microwave.". She felt confident she had helped me to learn something new and I allowed her to believe so as I patiently listened to see if she was right...she was.

So then we would be wise, and perhaps humbled to consider that, in a certain way, we too may have unknowingly been helped in the process of helping.

As receivers of help, we do not always want help, or even consider our own needs with regard to how others may be able to help. We may be wise at times simply to graciously, thankfully, accept help from others for their benefit and ours. During difficult times it is the acceptance of "unnecessary" help that open our eyes and we may find that we have needs to be met in areas we never even considered.

Often our greatest blessings must be forced upon us for our failure to recognize them as such. The blessing of help is an extension of grace. I believe the greatest extensions of grace in our lives often go unnoticed and the greatest extenders of grace are just fine with that.

To God alone be the glory.
Solo Cristo Salva.
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